Everyone has moments of doubt. Whether it involves business or personal life, those nagging “woulda-coulda-shoulda” moments seem to have an uncanny knack for appearing at the most inopportune times.
For some people, though, these moments do not last for seconds or minutes. They last for days, weeks and months. There are so many times in my own life where I’ve let my own head look downward toward the ground, feeling really awkward and bad about present or past events.
Woundedness is a term which describes not only physical harm and sensations. It also tends to lean toward matters of the soul. Where does this woundedness come from and how can I and we get rid of it? If you are looking for a quick solution, then here it is: ignore it and it’ll just go away.
It’s time to WAKE UP
If you believe ignoring what those wounded parts of your life are trying to do – meaning to WAKE UP – then keep sleepwalking and suffering. Oh man, wounds run deep. There are men and women all over the world who have a desperate desire to share what other people’s actions have done to their lives. Yet they don’t talk, don’t trust and don’t feel … classic symptoms of an adult child of an alcoholic.
Now you may not have been around anyone with a substance abuse problem, and I’d say “yay for you!” But this don’t-do-anything type of inner fear simply allows those wounds to recycle over and over again, appearing in different ways through relationships, work, communities and countries.
Late author and spiritual teacher Henri Nouwen wrote a book called “The Wounded Healer.” I hesitate to bring up anything religious and/or spiritual, so bear with me. A line on the book’s front cover quotes Nouwen, saying, “In our own woundedness, we can become a source of life for others.”
See, we can lift our own eyes from our wounded places and become incredible beacons of hope, love, compassion and empathy for others.
Others will follow our footsteps
You and I – especially those of us in the facial difference community around the world – are truly equipped to share our own journeys. We are the lightworkers and torchbearers for those who will follow in our footsteps. Where do we get the tenacity, the strength, the fortitude to continue on with life while others condemn, vilify and ignore? It comes from a place where it’s all too comfortable to sit.
It does not have to be that way, though. Together, we can chart a new course, state some valuable truths based on our own experiences, and truly look up and smile. This takes time, OK. It does happen with a snap of the fingers, nor does it happen in a set timeline. I wish that I could give you that assurance. Nope.
Yet you do not have to go through your own woundedness alone. There are like-minded and like-hearted individuals who will “get” where you are coming from in this moment.
Life has its ups and downs (no kidding!). May you find your own woundedness inside and turn that into an asset. Let it guide you to a more fuller, richer life.
Those nasty, stinky wounds will turn into scabs … thereby allowing you and I to raise our heads, lift our voices and do our best to remain grateful. Yes, even when the whole life-thing has crashed and burned.